Episode 197

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20th May 2026

What Our Wedding Taught Us About Money | E197 Gaby Deimeke

Weddings are one of the most emotionally charged financial decisions you’ll ever make.

You’re spending a large amount of money in a short period of time, making dozens of decisions — all while balancing your own priorities, your partner’s preferences, and outside expectations.

And after getting married in February, I realized something:

This wasn’t just a wedding…it was a real-life experiment in how we spend money.

In this episode, my wife Gaby joins me to break it all down — from how we decided what mattered, to exactly how much we spent, to what we’d do differently.

We share the full breakdown, the moments that were 100% worth it, and the things that, honestly, didn’t matter as much as we thought.

If you’ve ever struggled with spending money without second-guessing it, whether it’s a wedding, a house, or a big life decision, this episode will help you think about it more clearly.

Key Takeaways:

  1. How to decide what actually matters before spending money
  2. A real wedding cost breakdown and where the money went
  3. What expenses were truly worth it (and what weren’t)
  4. How social pressure can influence your spending decisions
  5. The tradeoffs between saving money and reducing stress
  6. Why optimization can sometimes make the experience worse
  7. How to make big financial decisions with less regret


Other Episodes You’ll Love:

4 Rules That Will Help You Spend Money Without Stress & Regret | E188

Shifting Away from a “Save-Only” Mindset | E175 Matt & Yana - CoastFI Couple

When You and Your Partner See Money Differently | E162 Brian Page


Guest Summary:

Gaby is Justin’s wife and partner in building a thoughtful, FI-minded life. While Justin tends to approach money from a more analytical perspective, Gaby brings a creative and experience-driven lens — making her the perfect counterbalance when it comes to making meaningful spending decisions. Together, they navigate how to align priorities, communicate through tradeoffs, and spend money in ways that genuinely enhance their lives. When she’s not bothering Justin, she’s often traveling and taking photos. See what she is up to on her website.


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Email me at Justin@FIMinded.com or connect with me on LinkedIn.


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FI Minded - Financial Independence, Early Retirement & Lifestyle Design
Achieve Financial Independence & Have Fun Doing It
Pursuing financial independence, financial freedom, or early retirement often leads to the same questions: How do I become financially independent? How much should I save? What happens after I reach FI?

FI Minded helps you use money to create more freedom, without turning your entire life into a financial optimization project.

Host Justin Peters explores the decisions behind building a flexible, work-optional life, from reaching financial independence and navigating Coast FI and Slow FI to spending your money, changing careers, stepping away from work, and figuring out what comes after FI.

Each episode combines practical personal finance with conversations about early retirement, lifestyle design, work, spending, healthcare, self-employment, and life after financial independence. The goal isn't simply to reach FI as quickly as possible. It's to make progress toward financial freedom while actually enjoying your life along the way.

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- Think through the tradeoffs behind major money and lifestyle decisions
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